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Showing posts with label Couples Only. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Couples Only. Show all posts

Friday, 17 June 2016

June 17, 2016

For Couples Only - 3 Ultimate Ways To Maintain A Marriage After 30 Years

For Couples Only - 3 Ultimate Ways To Maintain A Marriage After 30 Years

 Happy couples will walk down the aisle for a commitment of a lifetime, proclaiming their vows and making promises that they will try to uphold. It’s a beautiful moment that brings people together from far away for a ceremony that is beautiful and breathtaking.

Some might say “happily ever after” is just a fairytale, but couples are the ones to prove that marriage can withstand any hurricane with the right mindset and the right character.
Here are 3 Tips to Maintaining a Marriage After 30 Years

1. Avoid being addicted to anything
Marriage can sometimes cause you to crave a new personality. This emotion is a slippery slope.If ever this situation occurs, talk to your family members and your therapist. They will help you reflect upon yourself and allow you to avoid that slippery slope.
Remember that being married to a person means more than just a happy ending. It means you’ve got to put up with their laziness and they have to put up with your annoyances. However, it also means that you get to bring out and see the best in yourselves and in each other.

2. Ensure the importance of alone time
Before marriage, you are your own individual. You have your own circle of friends and family, career, and hobbies where your significant other wouldn’t necessarily be present. You meet your special person every now and then and speak about how your day was and what you did. Your conversations are always interesting and entertaining.

This concept of alone time doesn't have to be thrown out the window the moment you take up the vow of togetherness. Many couples that have been together for years know almost everything about each other. They become one person. So, having just that 10% of individuality and alone time allows one to still retain their own personality.

3.Communicate your feelings always
 speaking about your feelings, and expressing your emotions is important. Good or bad, explaining and expressing yourself allows your better half to understand you better. This open communication, which may become hidden due to social media and society’s expectations, has been key for all the old adorable couples you watch in the park.

Wednesday, 18 May 2016

May 18, 2016

Couples Only - 5 fights to avoid in your relationship

We all have gotten into unnecessary arguments and fights with our partners where we end up with regrets. Couples fight over silly issues like these:

1.)  "Why do you work a lot?"
People don’t understand that when your partner has already hard an exhausting day at the office, it's so wrong to start a fight about his work hours when he returns home. Marriage expert Sheri Meyers says,  "Rather than fighting about your S.O. spending too much time at work, make the time you do have together even more precious and special by filling it with the three A’s: attention, appreciation and affection. " She adds that, "When you put your focus on the good things that you value in your relationship, the time you do spend together will be more fun, loving and fulfilling."

2.)  "We don’t have enough sex"
Being hostile with your partner about how often you have sex or your desire to try something new in the bedroom won’t change anything even though you have a valid point. According to marriage and family therapist, Amy Begel, "Arguing about sex never works. Sex is the most intimate of connections between two people but you need to realize it’s primarily a non-verbal art form." She adds that fights brings the 'wrong kind of energy” and “kills the spark” you share as a couple. Instead, "imagination, seduction, affection, great conversation and well-placed flirting are more likely to positively transform a couple’s sex life."

3.) "I am right and you are wrong"
This is the most common fights between couples nowadays. It's difficult dealing with a partner who always needs to be right. Maybe you should try telling your spouse that you need to agree to disagree when you are little self-righteous.  "The truth is neither one of you is 100 percent right and neither one of you is 100 percent wrong,” Sheri Meyers says. "The task at hand is to stop competition (me vs. you) and start cooperation (you are, after all, a team). Instead of looking for what’s wrong, search for what you can agree on."

4.) "Why can't or don't you call me while you're at work?"
WTF! He/she should drop whatever they are doing to call you? What for? Even though it's kind and thoughtful to check on your spouse during the day, it's also hard to do so between meetings and a super busy day. "It might be that she can’t multitask her attention at work and it’s better to wait until she’s away from the office grind to talk,” said Carin Goldstein, a marriage and family therapist based in Sherman Oaks, California. "So if you really need to chit-chat during the day, call a friend who has some free time and save yourself a no-win argument with your spouse."

5.) "I'm the only one keeping this relationship afloat"
Stay clear of arguments about who’s the better parent, spouse or breadwinner. There’s no room from one-up-manship in a healthy marriage, says Begel. "Fights like this mask underlying tensions that need to be addressed openly, without kicking the other person in the process,” adding, "These are important challenges that need to be worked through — your feelings of neglect or lack of appreciation matter — but don’t make it a competition."

watch below how to stop a Fight